10 WAYS TO SURVIVE A BROKEN HEART

There’s an old assumption that time heals all wounds but I believe this to be untrue. Time doesn’t change us, it’s what we do with that time that changes us. We are all more than capable of taking control back into our own hands when life knocks us down. It’s just a matter of making changes that will move us forward. 

When you’re feeling lost and disheartened with life, here are 26 simple methods of taking your power back.

1. Get In Shape.

Strong bodies and strong minds go hand-in-hand. Forget about how your workout routine is making you look and start focusing on how it makes you feel – on the strength, the dedication and the structure that it brings to your mindset. By harnessing your physical power, you’re reminding yourself that you’re capable of so much more than you used to be. In the words of Jillian Michaels, “Fitness isn’t about a crunch or a push up. It’s about taking your power back.”

2. Get out of town.

Take a day, a week or a month to escape your usual surroundings and welcome in the world outside your doorstep. Sometimes a change in mindset is as simple as a change in scenery – and being away from home allows you the space, the freedom and the tranquility to heal on your own terms.

3. Rewrite your story.

The past is nothing more than a story we repeat to ourselves – and allowing ourselves to understand this is an incredibly liberating notion. Visit a narrative therapist who can help you re-frame your experiences, or journal them out until you’re able to come to a new understanding of why things happened the way they did. Learn to pinpoint the opportunities for growth within the destruction of your past – and then move forward with those opportunities close to your heart.

4. Invite new people into your life.

The positive effect we are able to have on one another as humans is immeasurable. Sometimes the best way to heal from the toxicity of past relationships is to allow the beauty of new ones to flourish. We all end up thinking, behaving and being like the people we spend the most time around – so choose the ones who make you want to be the best possible version of yourself.

5. Tell your story.

Be honest about your past. Share the pain of everything that’s happened to you and allow your strength in moving past it to inspire other people. Don’t hide or downplay anything that feels important to you. Refuse to apologize for where you’ve been.

6. Be disciplined about self-care.

When we’re sick, we take particular care to rest, drink fluids and take medicine – even if it temporarily impedes on our productivity. When we’re struggling emotionally, we have to take care of ourselves in much of the same way. By making self-care a priority, you are setting yourself up for a quicker and infinitely less painful recovery.

7. Change your appearance.

Sometimes we need a deliberate outward change to reflect a subtle internal one. By altering your hair, makeup or style, you’re concretely welcoming change into your life – and recognizing that it can be a good thing. In fact, it can even be something that happens on your own terms.

8. Quit what isn’t working for you.

When the stakes are down and our lives are lying in shambles, we are paradoxically awarded the ideal opportunity to start over. Use your ill fortune as the excuse you’ve been waiting for to walk away from that shitty job, toxic relationship or commitment that is making you miserable. If you’re going to be forced to start over, you might as well do it once, the right way.

9. Give yourself permission to let go.

Not everything that happens to us has to have a meaning or a lesson. If your past no longer serves you, give yourself permission to let go and forget about the pain that has been holding you back. You dictate your story and you don’t have to place emphasis on anything that makes you feel small.

10. Connect with people who’ve been through something similar.

Seek out the words, company and comforts of those who understand what you’re going through. Read their stories, cherish the wisdom they’ve gleaned and use it as a constant, pervasive reminder that you are never alone.

YOU KNOW HE CARES WHEN

It’s true women are the more insecure gender, there’s no denying that. All of us girls have the right to know when a man deserves our attention and time or not. Here are a few check pointers to assure you if he’s worth it or not.

He always asks you before a plan

He doesn’t just venture out on his own without giving a thought to what you feel. He always makes it a point to ask you before making a plan, no matter how much it means to him.

He values your time and efforts

He knows you have a busy schedule and somehow still manage to take care of his needs. He will value it and never just tell you to do things. Every once in a while he may even help you around with your work without being asked to do so.

Never forgets to make sure you’re okay

If he remembers your important dates and events and things that bother you, and makes it a point to check you a couple of times during the day then you know you’ve got your special place in his heart.

He does things but doesn’t brag

If he often does huge favors along with tiny little everyday ones but makes sure to never brag about it then it is evident that it doesn’t even cross his mind. He’s happy doing things for you as long as you’re happy.

Honesty is the word

He is always honest, no matter what. If he thinks you should know about something then he will tell you no matter what the outcome. It only goes out to show that he values the relationship and wants to keep it pure.

It’s always ‘you first’ for him

He doesn’t make decisions that suit him alone. He makes sure to think of you before jumping into anything. Sometimes he may even do things as per your liking even though it’s not what he wants.

No grudges policy

He holds no grudges against you. Whatever the problem is, he talks and sorts it out with you and doesn’t hold on to it forever.

Rationality

He doesn’t get into stupid small issues with you. If and when you do fight it is always on matters of importance. He sees no point in spoiling the mood over tiny little things.

EASY WAYS TO BE CHIC THIS WINTER

While some may need a brush, pencil or paint to create art, I need pieces of fabric to come together as one master piece. Dressing well is an art and I will guide you to look your best this winter.

The first thing you need to own this season is a faux fur vest! It is the trendiest and easiest thing to pair an outfit with.

The second must have would have to be the over knee boots. There is nothing that would give your legs length like these do. I would suggest going for a simple black suede over the knee boot as it is most compatible and easiest to carry off but if your more of a daring individual with a bad ass attitude , you have to try the over the knee leather boots to make yourself feel a new version of sexy. 

Winter is all about dark lip colours and the colour of the season is - Bordeaux/ Oxblood.

There is nothing sexier than a woman with bright red lips other than a woman with really dark red lips. If you want to get the oomph factor then trust me, you've got to get this shade on your lips.

THE 90'S CHOKER IS BACK! 

I would have to thank Balmain for bringing the choker back in with their latest collection. But don't worry you can grab your choker from an 'Aldo' or 'Accessorise' store near you. 

FASHION IN THE DARK AGES

Before the dark ages, many wore free material or fleece tunics like enormous loose shirts like attire. It was less demanding to recognize men and ladies of diverse callings from one another. Men for the most part wore tunics out to their knees, however old men and ministers wore their tunics out to the ground, thus did lords and aristocrats for gatherings and services. Men at times likewise wore fleece pants under their tunics. Wearing jeans was initially a Germanic thought, and the Romans objected to it. Yet, it bit by bit got on at any rate, particularly among men who rode steeds and in colder territories. Other men, particularly aristocrats, wore tights under their tunics. Outside, in the event that it was cool, men wore fleece shrouds.

During the1200s AD, ladies in Spain additionally gained from Egyptian ladies how to sew fleece rather than just weaving it. By the 1400s, ladies were sewing in northern Europe. Sewing was much speedier than weaving, furthermore created decent warm tights that fit well, however they destroyed rapidly and should have been be darned. Weaving wasn't so energizing in Egypt and southern Europe where it was warm, yet in northern Europe, where the Little Ice Age was bringing colder and colder climate, sewing gradually turned out to be essential.

Men wore leather shoes on their feet if they could afford them. Ladies additionally wore various types of garments relying upon who they were. All ladies wore no less than one tunic out to their lower legs. Numerous ladies, in the event that they could manage the cost of it, wore a cloth under-tunic and a woolen over-tunic, and frequently a fleece shroud over that on the off chance that they were going outside. On their legs ladies here and there wore woven tights or socks, however ladies never wore pants. Nuns wore tunics like other ladies, however for the most part in dark or white instead of hues. Aristocrats regularly wore extravagant tall caps, some of the time with streamers falling off them. They in some cases culled the hair from their brows to give themselves high temples which individuals believed were lovely.

Very little medieval attire survives today as apparel tends to decay when it is covered under the ground, and even noticeable all around it tears and gets beat up and afterward individuals use it for clothes. A large portion of what we think about medieval attire originates from medieval pictures and models.

FASHION IN THE RENNESIANCE TIMES

Because of laws restricting why one should be permitted to wear what, and the expense of materials, there was an immeasurable contrast in clothing between the classes. Did materials shift, as well as styles too, as the lower classes selected reasonableness in their dress by need.

Lower classes, for example, workers and students would wear cloth, a light, cool fabric got from the flax plant, fleece, or sheepskin.

Fabrics accessible to those in the privileged societies included silk, glossy silk, velvet, and brocade. As this was before the modern unrest, all gathering, weaving, and generation of fabrics and garments was finished by hand, along these lines extraordinarily affecting cost.

Similarly as with fabric decisions, the lower classes were restricted in the measure of apparel they could bear, and may just have one arrangement of garments.

While the materials and extravagance of attire differed extraordinarily between the classes, the fundamental components of an outfit were much the same.

WOMEN

The styles of the outfits worn by ladies in Renaissance England changed from year to year, yet the fundamental styles continued as before. Ladies wore outfits contained a tight-fitting bustier and a more full skirt that would hang down to the lower legs. Dresses slice to uncover a significant part of the neck area were adequate and trendy. Attire of the high societies was overwhelming and confined development for the wearer. Ladies of the lower classes wore considerably less prohibitive styles, both for opportunity of development, and in light of the fact that they didn't have hirelings to offer them some assistance with dressing.

Every one of ladies' outfits began with a movement (a free, material frock worn to ensure the outfit), and leggings, which were regularly knee-high. Slips were added both to round out an outfit and to keep the wearer warm.

MEN

A man's outfit would begin with a shirt yet with trim collars and sleeves. Over this would go a doublet, or fitted top, lastly over that a jerkin, a skintight coat. Men of the regular workers like their female partners dressed for utility and may just wear the shirt alone. Rather than trousers as we are utilized to them today, men would wear hose on their legs. The upper hose were (knee-length trousers which were met by the under hose, or tights, on the lower leg. In the rule of Henry VIII, doublets got to be shorter, making a space between the upper hose and the doublet. With a specific end goal to protect humility, the cod piece got to be famous once more, having been around since the medieval times. The cod piece was initially a fabric or creature skin pocket in the from of hose or trouser, yet were presently produced using different materials, and frequently cushioned or utilized for capacity - Henry VIII utilized his codpiece to store cash.

CHILDREN

Children in Renaissance England were considered just little grown-ups, and their dress mirrored this. Kids were wearing garments fundamentally the same to their guardians, and both young men and young ladies wore dresses amid youthful adolescence. Young men when they turned mature enough (typically around the age of seven, when they could begin helping their fathers) were "breeched," or put into their first combine of breeches, or hose.